Author: Sue P. McDaniel

PROCLAMATION: Valentines Day is hereby declared a day for loving!!!

Valentines Day is for loving - it is not just hearts and flowers, chocolates, sexy lingerie, sweethearts and lovers. Within our culture this day has become a day of both great joy as well as much misery. If you have a sweetie or sweeties to share this day with you this can be a very special time to share your love. However, there are many people who are without that special person, have no family, or are just plain alone and lonely. For these folks, Valentines Day can be one day that can only pass too quickly.

Perhaps you are one those people without a special someone or maybe you know a person who needs a little TLC (tender loving care). In reality, many people are in need of some TLC. We live in a society in which we have achieved all manner of material success, but are disconnected from each other personally. As I have talked to people about I.M. Heart, there is a consensus that there is a great need to connect from the heart.

What does connection mean? There are all levels of connection - some are short term, occasional or superficial, like two ships passing in the night. We may meet, exchange a greeting and then not see each other for a long period of time. Other connections are with acquaintances, friendly, cordial, a lunch or dinner, not requiring much more than pleasant, social interaction. They are feel good connections that bring happiness and fun to our days. Most of us are fortunate to have personal and intimate connections. These are people with whom we feel free to be honest and open with on more personal and profound topics. Whether or not we are blood relations, we are attached at a deeper comfort level and there is a commitment to the well-being of the other.

We connect in many ways. Through conversation we find that we are all more alike than different, find a trait to like or enjoy in another, or find a common hobby or interest to connect us. In activities, sports, movies, the arts we find a common ground. We may connect simply through a smile, hand shake, hug, eye contact or a nod of our head. The significance of connection is that we find ways to relate to, associate with, or come in touch with another human being. That seems to be the crux of the cultural disconnect - that we have lost touch with the common humanity in one another.

This Valentines Day, February 14, 2008, is your opportunity to connect! How much influence can you have on the lives of other people in one day? How much love can you spread around in a 24-hour period of time? We could all benefit from more kind souls who are willing to take an extra moment to offer a word of thanks, to extend a helping hand, to be patient or simply to listen. Perhaps a smile, a genuine inquiry about our well-being or a phone call would be a way to connect. Person to person we need to take better care of each other. A kindness shown another can have more influence than we can imagine. Our actions can alter the course of history or simply make a difference by putting a silly smile on the face of another human being.

There are some simple actions that you can take to connect on this day - they may require no money. That do require your time - your presence - your attention - your caring. They require giving of yourself --- to someone else. How do you do that? Think about these ideas for tender loving care:

• TIME - Schedule time to be with someone your care about - and then truly BE with them. Just be a companion in any activity you enjoy sharing.

• LISTEN - Really listen with your ears, eyes, heart and mind. Listen to joys, sorrows, stories, questions. To many people, someone to listen to them would be an enormous gift of love.

• LAUGH - We take life so seriously. Instead chill out and take joy in the ordinary moments in life. Share both the silly little ditties and the huge, incredible, you'll- never-believe-this humorous stories. Giggle, chuckle, grin and enjoy!!

• GIVE WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT - Sometimes an empathetic word of encouragement is all people need to make a change. They need someone to support them to get through a tough time. If you believe in them it will help them to believe in themselves.

• GIVE A COMPLIMENT - Many people are unable to compliment themselves. They see their weaknesses, but they cannot see their strengths. Your genuine compliment will remind them of their value and worth. You can make their day.

• CALL SOMEONE - Who have you wondered about, wanted to talk to, or missed? Call them on Valentines Day and tell them how much they mean to you.

• THANK SOMEONE - Tell someone you appreciate, love, or admire that you are grateful to have them in your life. Let them know that your heart smiles when you think of them.

These are just a few of the many ways we can connect to others on Valentines Day. Experiment with these and be creative in using other ideas. We can create miracles by connecting to each other with a loving energy. An open heart reaching out to another open heart creates a network for miracles that are passed forward. Valentines Day is not just for lovers, it is for loving each other.

Think about this crazy idea: What would happen if we carried this concept of loving each other beyond Valentines Day? How many miracles could we create on a daily on-going basis? Maybe everyday could be Valentines Day!!

There is another benefit to connecting. How many miracles will this level of giving create for you? If you feel you are a Valentine crumb instead of a heart-shaped wonder, stop the pity party, forget yourself and reach out to someone else. By giving your loving energy to others, you can give tender loving care and be a Valentine blessing to yourself as well.

Love and Blessings!!! Happy Valentines Day!!!


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About the Author:
I.M. Heart was published in November 2007, by Alternatives. Information on this book can be found at I.M. Heart

Author: Sue P. McDaniel

PROCLAMATION: Valentines Day is hereby declared a day for loving!!!

Valentines Day is for loving - it is not just hearts and flowers, chocolates, sexy lingerie, sweethearts and lovers. Within our culture this day has become a day of both great joy as well as much misery. If you have a sweetie or sweeties to share this day with you this can be a very special time to share your love. However, there are many people who are without that special person, have no family, or are just plain alone and lonely. For these folks, Valentines Day can be one day that can only pass too quickly.

Perhaps you are one those people without a special someone or maybe you know a person who needs a little TLC (tender loving care). In reality, many people are in need of some TLC. We live in a society in which we have achieved all manner of material success, but are disconnected from each other personally. As I have talked to people about I.M. Heart, there is a consensus that there is a great need to connect from the heart.

What does connection mean? There are all levels of connection - some are short term, occasional or superficial, like two ships passing in the night. We may meet, exchange a greeting and then not see each other for a long period of time. Other connections are with acquaintances, friendly, cordial, a lunch or dinner, not requiring much more than pleasant, social interaction. They are feel good connections that bring happiness and fun to our days. Most of us are fortunate to have personal and intimate connections. These are people with whom we feel free to be honest and open with on more personal and profound topics. Whether or not we are blood relations, we are attached at a deeper comfort level and there is a commitment to the well-being of the other.

We connect in many ways. Through conversation we find that we are all more alike than different, find a trait to like or enjoy in another, or find a common hobby or interest to connect us. In activities, sports, movies, the arts we find a common ground. We may connect simply through a smile, hand shake, hug, eye contact or a nod of our head. The significance of connection is that we find ways to relate to, associate with, or come in touch with another human being. That seems to be the crux of the cultural disconnect - that we have lost touch with the common humanity in one another.

This Valentines Day, February 14, 2008, is your opportunity to connect! How much influence can you have on the lives of other people in one day? How much love can you spread around in a 24-hour period of time? We could all benefit from more kind souls who are willing to take an extra moment to offer a word of thanks, to extend a helping hand, to be patient or simply to listen. Perhaps a smile, a genuine inquiry about our well-being or a phone call would be a way to connect. Person to person we need to take better care of each other. A kindness shown another can have more influence than we can imagine. Our actions can alter the course of history or simply make a difference by putting a silly smile on the face of another human being.

There are some simple actions that you can take to connect on this day - they may require no money. That do require your time - your presence - your attention - your caring. They require giving of yourself --- to someone else. How do you do that? Think about these ideas for tender loving care:

• TIME - Schedule time to be with someone your care about - and then truly BE with them. Just be a companion in any activity you enjoy sharing.

• LISTEN - Really listen with your ears, eyes, heart and mind. Listen to joys, sorrows, stories, questions. To many people, someone to listen to them would be an enormous gift of love.

• LAUGH - We take life so seriously. Instead chill out and take joy in the ordinary moments in life. Share both the silly little ditties and the huge, incredible, you'll- never-believe-this humorous stories. Giggle, chuckle, grin and enjoy!!

• GIVE WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT - Sometimes an empathetic word of encouragement is all people need to make a change. They need someone to support them to get through a tough time. If you believe in them it will help them to believe in themselves.

• GIVE A COMPLIMENT - Many people are unable to compliment themselves. They see their weaknesses, but they cannot see their strengths. Your genuine compliment will remind them of their value and worth. You can make their day.

• CALL SOMEONE - Who have you wondered about, wanted to talk to, or missed? Call them on Valentines Day and tell them how much they mean to you.

• THANK SOMEONE - Tell someone you appreciate, love, or admire that you are grateful to have them in your life. Let them know that your heart smiles when you think of them.

These are just a few of the many ways we can connect to others on Valentines Day. Experiment with these and be creative in using other ideas. We can create miracles by connecting to each other with a loving energy. An open heart reaching out to another open heart creates a network for miracles that are passed forward. Valentines Day is not just for lovers, it is for loving each other.

Think about this crazy idea: What would happen if we carried this concept of loving each other beyond Valentines Day? How many miracles could we create on a daily on-going basis? Maybe everyday could be Valentines Day!!

There is another benefit to connecting. How many miracles will this level of giving create for you? If you feel you are a Valentine crumb instead of a heart-shaped wonder, stop the pity party, forget yourself and reach out to someone else. By giving your loving energy to others, you can give tender loving care and be a Valentine blessing to yourself as well.

Love and Blessings!!! Happy Valentines Day!!!


Article Source: www.articlesbase.com

About the Author:
I.M. Heart was published in November 2007, by Alternatives. Information on this book can be found at I.M. Heart

Author: sheri falcone

Are you feeling trouble with your relationships? Is their uneasiness with your spouse or children? What about your co-workers? Are you snapping with your best friends? We all have ups and downs with our relationships. If you would like to improve your relationship, you may look at what you say and more importantly how you say it. We don’t always realize the TONE in which we speak to those we care about.


I was talking to my grown son last week on several different occasions and I found myself snapping at him a couple of times. He asked “what’s with you –what did I do to make you upset with me”? I just sat there and realized that he did nothing. I was just annoyed with my day and found myself not really being present with my conversation with him. After I hung up the phone, I felt really bad because I know I had hurt his feelings for no apparent reason. It is so easy to inflict our annoyances on others without even realizing we are doing it. At that point, I decided it was time to really look at the way I speak to others and make a change. I did not want the relationships I have with others to suffer from my negligence.


How many times have you been on the receiving end of a sharp clerk or a busy husband or a teenager?

We all know that feeling and should well remember it when talking to others.


Below are some things to think about and implement if you want to improve your relationships.


Actually LISTEN to the words you say throughout the day. Listen for your TONE. How often did you raise your voice, speak in a sharp or sarcastic way, or in a hurtful way. Others might not say anything to you, but I guarantee they felt your words and voice. After too many times of this, it begins to wear on those you have inflicted your words upon.


Make a conscious CHOICE to make a change on how you speak to others.


Put yourself in their shoes and see how they may be affected by your words.


BEFORE you speak, think about what you are going to say. Even if you have to take an extra breath to compose your thoughts, it is worth the effort. It may even slow down your approach to others.


PRESENTATION is everything in learning how to communicate successfully with others. How can you say something that will benefit the other person?


REMEMBER what this person means to you.


If you stumble and forget and say something you know you shouldn’t, recognize it, forgive yourself and then apologize. It is amazing how a recognition and apology will help.


Know that you will not change in a day or even a week. But with daily acknowledgment of what you are doing and making the changes as they occur, it will soon become the habit of being aware of your words and the power they have over others.


Persevere. It is worth it.


Article Source: www.articlesbase.com

About the Author:
About the Author: Sheri Falcone is a novice author, student of personal growth, and entrepreneur who enjoys helping others become truly empowered and achieve their dreams. She has turned her passion into a lucrative personal development, home business, www.setnolimits.info. This business system provides all the tools you will need to create greater prosperity and joy in your life. Her enthusiasm is contagious and she believes laughter and appreciation are our emotional healers

Author: sheri falcone

Are you feeling trouble with your relationships? Is their uneasiness with your spouse or children? What about your co-workers? Are you snapping with your best friends? We all have ups and downs with our relationships. If you would like to improve your relationship, you may look at what you say and more importantly how you say it. We don’t always realize the TONE in which we speak to those we care about.


I was talking to my grown son last week on several different occasions and I found myself snapping at him a couple of times. He asked “what’s with you –what did I do to make you upset with me”? I just sat there and realized that he did nothing. I was just annoyed with my day and found myself not really being present with my conversation with him. After I hung up the phone, I felt really bad because I know I had hurt his feelings for no apparent reason. It is so easy to inflict our annoyances on others without even realizing we are doing it. At that point, I decided it was time to really look at the way I speak to others and make a change. I did not want the relationships I have with others to suffer from my negligence.


How many times have you been on the receiving end of a sharp clerk or a busy husband or a teenager?

We all know that feeling and should well remember it when talking to others.


Below are some things to think about and implement if you want to improve your relationships.


Actually LISTEN to the words you say throughout the day. Listen for your TONE. How often did you raise your voice, speak in a sharp or sarcastic way, or in a hurtful way. Others might not say anything to you, but I guarantee they felt your words and voice. After too many times of this, it begins to wear on those you have inflicted your words upon.


Make a conscious CHOICE to make a change on how you speak to others.


Put yourself in their shoes and see how they may be affected by your words.


BEFORE you speak, think about what you are going to say. Even if you have to take an extra breath to compose your thoughts, it is worth the effort. It may even slow down your approach to others.


PRESENTATION is everything in learning how to communicate successfully with others. How can you say something that will benefit the other person?


REMEMBER what this person means to you.


If you stumble and forget and say something you know you shouldn’t, recognize it, forgive yourself and then apologize. It is amazing how a recognition and apology will help.


Know that you will not change in a day or even a week. But with daily acknowledgment of what you are doing and making the changes as they occur, it will soon become the habit of being aware of your words and the power they have over others.


Persevere. It is worth it.


Article Source: www.articlesbase.com

About the Author:
About the Author: Sheri Falcone is a novice author, student of personal growth, and entrepreneur who enjoys helping others become truly empowered and achieve their dreams. She has turned her passion into a lucrative personal development, home business, www.setnolimits.info. This business system provides all the tools you will need to create greater prosperity and joy in your life. Her enthusiasm is contagious and she believes laughter and appreciation are our emotional healers

Author: Michael Francis


How to fall in love again and stay there? This question is faced by those who had a breakup and caught unawares how to fall in love again. Soon after you break out of a relationship you must have nursed that sore emotions and felt blue but deep down in the heart it could have been a world of different feeling which is perhaps what is making you wonder how to fall in love again and enjoy the relationship you once prided over.


Relationships are always hard to keep and you’ve got to take the downs with a pinch of salt. The infatuation and passion that lasts for a few months in the least has got likelihood of topping a few years on the trot. Many long-term couples think that the passion has faded out giving way to breakups. I would say they haven’t found the kinds of things conducive for association.


Similar to how you wish your partner would devote a level of commitment to your relationship, you are also required to display it from your side. If you are serious of having a relationship that is true and complete you must take the first proactive step towards restoring it. Remember, the first lesson in ‘how to fall in love again and stay there’ dwells on the principles of it takes two to clap. If you move half the way, you will have certainly evoked enough interest in your partner to move the other half in the hope to meet somewhere midway. A good relationship is not stagnant water: it takes intended attempt to keep it going.


It is important to understand that marriage doesn’t make you leave out all slings and arrows of your past and only bring in your present self into the relationship — a universal truth which applies to both of you. Realizing this and shedding fallacies like no interest, separation is the only recourse and I have given up hopes are impractical and thus don’t go well with how to fall in love again.


Faint hearts and uncompromising persons fall for the truth sooner or later, let alone understand that they are misfits to revive the lost relationship. If you have it in your to still reminisce the feeling of falling in love, I would definitely say, you know how to fall in love again and you have it in you. Luck maturity, and endurance alongside trust are essential ingredients to revive the relationship you are seeking how to fall in love again.

Article Source: www.articlesbase.com

About the Author:
Michael S. Francis is a SEO consultant of Free Phone Chat Line . If you are looking for a 100% free phone chat line in the United States that never charges a fee, click here Phone Number For Free Chat Line .

Author: Michael Francis


How to fall in love again and stay there? This question is faced by those who had a breakup and caught unawares how to fall in love again. Soon after you break out of a relationship you must have nursed that sore emotions and felt blue but deep down in the heart it could have been a world of different feeling which is perhaps what is making you wonder how to fall in love again and enjoy the relationship you once prided over.


Relationships are always hard to keep and you’ve got to take the downs with a pinch of salt. The infatuation and passion that lasts for a few months in the least has got likelihood of topping a few years on the trot. Many long-term couples think that the passion has faded out giving way to breakups. I would say they haven’t found the kinds of things conducive for association.


Similar to how you wish your partner would devote a level of commitment to your relationship, you are also required to display it from your side. If you are serious of having a relationship that is true and complete you must take the first proactive step towards restoring it. Remember, the first lesson in ‘how to fall in love again and stay there’ dwells on the principles of it takes two to clap. If you move half the way, you will have certainly evoked enough interest in your partner to move the other half in the hope to meet somewhere midway. A good relationship is not stagnant water: it takes intended attempt to keep it going.


It is important to understand that marriage doesn’t make you leave out all slings and arrows of your past and only bring in your present self into the relationship — a universal truth which applies to both of you. Realizing this and shedding fallacies like no interest, separation is the only recourse and I have given up hopes are impractical and thus don’t go well with how to fall in love again.


Faint hearts and uncompromising persons fall for the truth sooner or later, let alone understand that they are misfits to revive the lost relationship. If you have it in your to still reminisce the feeling of falling in love, I would definitely say, you know how to fall in love again and you have it in you. Luck maturity, and endurance alongside trust are essential ingredients to revive the relationship you are seeking how to fall in love again.

Article Source: www.articlesbase.com

About the Author:
Michael S. Francis is a SEO consultant of Free Phone Chat Line . If you are looking for a 100% free phone chat line in the United States that never charges a fee, click here Phone Number For Free Chat Line .

When you are with someone you really care about, how can you tell if that person is the one for you? How can you find out where your relationship stands? Are there any clues that could tell you if the relationship will lead into marriage?

Perhaps you are at the stage where you feel that you are ready to settle down and would like to know if the relationship is going anywhere. How do you find out if the person you are with is as committed to you as you are to him/her?

Below are some signs that could help you tell how serious and dedicated you and your partner are getting and how close you are into taking that next step:

1. You drop the "I" or "you" and start referring to each other as "we".

2. There is no one else that you can imagine being with than him or her. They are starting to become the most important person in your life.

3. You catch yourself thinking about ways to please your partner rather than yourself.

4. You see yourselves growing old together, walking hand in hand along the shore, and taking care of each other.

5. You have fun imagining what your children and grandchildren will be like.

6. You start looking at money in a different way, like thinking about buying a house together, saving for a trip together, spending it on anything that you both can share.

7. You cancel dates with your friends and other people because you would rather spend time with him or her.

8. You start feeling tired of the single life and start thinking about getting married.

9. You feel strongly that it is very important for your family and your 'special someone's' parents to get along.

10. You start thinking and talking more about the future and your goals together.

Article Source: www.articopia.com

John and Leanne Morris are christian dating and relationship coaches. For more dating tips and advice check out:
Christian-Dating-Help.com or Christian-Dating-Ideas.com

When you are with someone you really care about, how can you tell if that person is the one for you? How can you find out where your relationship stands? Are there any clues that could tell you if the relationship will lead into marriage?

Perhaps you are at the stage where you feel that you are ready to settle down and would like to know if the relationship is going anywhere. How do you find out if the person you are with is as committed to you as you are to him/her?

Below are some signs that could help you tell how serious and dedicated you and your partner are getting and how close you are into taking that next step:

1. You drop the "I" or "you" and start referring to each other as "we".

2. There is no one else that you can imagine being with than him or her. They are starting to become the most important person in your life.

3. You catch yourself thinking about ways to please your partner rather than yourself.

4. You see yourselves growing old together, walking hand in hand along the shore, and taking care of each other.

5. You have fun imagining what your children and grandchildren will be like.

6. You start looking at money in a different way, like thinking about buying a house together, saving for a trip together, spending it on anything that you both can share.

7. You cancel dates with your friends and other people because you would rather spend time with him or her.

8. You start feeling tired of the single life and start thinking about getting married.

9. You feel strongly that it is very important for your family and your 'special someone's' parents to get along.

10. You start thinking and talking more about the future and your goals together.

Article Source: www.articopia.com

John and Leanne Morris are christian dating and relationship coaches. For more dating tips and advice check out:
Christian-Dating-Help.com or Christian-Dating-Ideas.com

Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifesting him or her into your life. The basic law of attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.

I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is part of the formula for manifestation. If you do not yet believe with 100% certainty that your soul mate is out there, let’s begin to look for things that will make a believer out of you.

Do you believe you are loveable? If you are reading this then I am certain you are loveable. Why? Because, loveable people want more love in their lives. But, if you believe you are not loveable, I’m going to ask you to challenge that belief. Take a moment to identify at least three (or more) lovable traits that you possess, such as being generous, compassionate, friendly, kind, considerate, thoughtful, interesting, funny, etc. Write these down and then memorize them. You will be using them shortly for your treasure map.

I know many very attractive, successful single people who have some very negative, limiting beliefs when it comes to finding their soul mate.

The list usually goes something like this:
I’m too old.
I’m too fat.
I’m too damaged.
I have too much baggage.
I am too successful.
I am not successful enough.
All the good ones are taken.
Nobody I want wants me.

These are just knee-jerk excuses to keep you stuck. There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any other feeble excuse. What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? It’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love.

You don’t really know where air or water comes from but you totally believe that they are there for you. As a human being you know that air and water are your divine right. You know that no matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water. The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate. There is nothing for you to do, there is only a way for you to BE.

Article Source: articopia.com

Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at www.SoulMateKit.com.

Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifesting him or her into your life. The basic law of attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.

I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is part of the formula for manifestation. If you do not yet believe with 100% certainty that your soul mate is out there, let’s begin to look for things that will make a believer out of you.

Do you believe you are loveable? If you are reading this then I am certain you are loveable. Why? Because, loveable people want more love in their lives. But, if you believe you are not loveable, I’m going to ask you to challenge that belief. Take a moment to identify at least three (or more) lovable traits that you possess, such as being generous, compassionate, friendly, kind, considerate, thoughtful, interesting, funny, etc. Write these down and then memorize them. You will be using them shortly for your treasure map.

I know many very attractive, successful single people who have some very negative, limiting beliefs when it comes to finding their soul mate.

The list usually goes something like this:
I’m too old.
I’m too fat.
I’m too damaged.
I have too much baggage.
I am too successful.
I am not successful enough.
All the good ones are taken.
Nobody I want wants me.

These are just knee-jerk excuses to keep you stuck. There is plenty of evidence that love is available to everyone regardless of age, weight or income or any other feeble excuse. What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? It’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love.

You don’t really know where air or water comes from but you totally believe that they are there for you. As a human being you know that air and water are your divine right. You know that no matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water. The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate. There is nothing for you to do, there is only a way for you to BE.

Article Source: articopia.com

Arielle Ford is a professional, previously unmarried woman who is revealing her secret to finding romance, love, marriage, and a perfect soumate. She discovered how to take her professional success and apply it to her personal life, and she has never been happier. Now she wants to share that secret with you. Learn how to find your soulmate at www.SoulMateKit.com.

Commitment is a responsibility to someone else or to you. When you commit to a course of action, you are responsible for ensuring that you do that action. If your commitment was to another person, that person expects that you will do what you committed yourself to do. If you commit to yourself that you will do something, you will feel bad if you don't, your self-esteem will plummet and the action will not get done. That unfulfilled action could be the difference between a life of plenty and a life of just getting by. It will certainly mean that your life will not go in the direction that it could have gone if you had taken the action.

Abraham Lincoln said, "A commitment is what transforms a promise into reality."

Commitment is hard. It comes with a responsibility to carry out the action that you have pledged to do. If you are in business, you commit to providing your customers with the products they desire with the best service possible. Service commitment is a business pledge that your customers expect you to keep. If you fail to do so, you will find that your business slowly withers away. So, commitment is a business necessity. It is the key to maximum business performance.

Commitment is what saves you, and all of us, from our fickle ego and its fluctuating fears and desires. If you fail to make a commitment to some course of action, then you are not really obliged to continue that course of action. For example, suppose you decide that you are going to go to the gym and exercise for an hour a day. You go for a couple of days and then on the third day you really don't feel like going. If you haven't made a commitment to do this exercise regardless of how you feel, then quitting the exercise is acceptable. If on the other hand you have made a commitment to do the exercise, then come what may, you are obliged to continue doing it.

You will find that a life of ethical commitment is a life full of rich relationships, meaningfulness, integrity and joy. Commitment is at the core of social life. The warm happy aspects of love are more likely to be evidenced if the underlying commitment is rock solid. Commitment is an important determinant of any relationship, either personal or professional. It is very difficult to build trust with another individual if we do not commit ourselves to do our very best to make our relationship with that other person the best that it can possibly be.

Commitment is healthiest when it is not without doubt, but in spite of doubt. There is only one sure thing in life and that is that at some point you will die. Everything else depends on you and your commitment to a course of action to have your life go in the direction that you want it to go. Unfortunately, commitment is something that many of us in this culture are averse to; we want to "keep our options open" and "be free to do what we want to."

This sounds nice and many people believe it; however, those that do leave the outcome of their life in the hands of someone else. If you don't commit to directing your own life, you become a passenger, taken wherever someone else wants you to go. This is why so many people complain today that their life just isn't turning out the way they wanted it to turn out. How can it? They are in the ship of life with no helmsman and no rudder, just drifting with the currents. For life energy to move in a desired direction, commitment is essential.

Commitment is the difference between mediocrity and excellence. Commitment is the most powerful force we have. When we commit to something, we take an active part in ensuring that the outcome of what we committed to is as close to perfect as possible. And that is exactly what everyone wants, everything as close to perfect as possible.

To ensure that it happens for you, make your commitment to your life today. With commitment from you, anything is possible, without it nothing is possible. So, remember commitment is a responsibility from you to yourself. Take that commitment and make your life all that you want it to be.

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Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of besuccessfulnews.com, a site that provides information and articles on how to succeed in your own home or small business.

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Commitment is a responsibility to someone else or to you. When you commit to a course of action, you are responsible for ensuring that you do that action. If your commitment was to another person, that person expects that you will do what you committed yourself to do. If you commit to yourself that you will do something, you will feel bad if you don't, your self-esteem will plummet and the action will not get done. That unfulfilled action could be the difference between a life of plenty and a life of just getting by. It will certainly mean that your life will not go in the direction that it could have gone if you had taken the action.

Abraham Lincoln said, "A commitment is what transforms a promise into reality."

Commitment is hard. It comes with a responsibility to carry out the action that you have pledged to do. If you are in business, you commit to providing your customers with the products they desire with the best service possible. Service commitment is a business pledge that your customers expect you to keep. If you fail to do so, you will find that your business slowly withers away. So, commitment is a business necessity. It is the key to maximum business performance.

Commitment is what saves you, and all of us, from our fickle ego and its fluctuating fears and desires. If you fail to make a commitment to some course of action, then you are not really obliged to continue that course of action. For example, suppose you decide that you are going to go to the gym and exercise for an hour a day. You go for a couple of days and then on the third day you really don't feel like going. If you haven't made a commitment to do this exercise regardless of how you feel, then quitting the exercise is acceptable. If on the other hand you have made a commitment to do the exercise, then come what may, you are obliged to continue doing it.

You will find that a life of ethical commitment is a life full of rich relationships, meaningfulness, integrity and joy. Commitment is at the core of social life. The warm happy aspects of love are more likely to be evidenced if the underlying commitment is rock solid. Commitment is an important determinant of any relationship, either personal or professional. It is very difficult to build trust with another individual if we do not commit ourselves to do our very best to make our relationship with that other person the best that it can possibly be.

Commitment is healthiest when it is not without doubt, but in spite of doubt. There is only one sure thing in life and that is that at some point you will die. Everything else depends on you and your commitment to a course of action to have your life go in the direction that you want it to go. Unfortunately, commitment is something that many of us in this culture are averse to; we want to "keep our options open" and "be free to do what we want to."

This sounds nice and many people believe it; however, those that do leave the outcome of their life in the hands of someone else. If you don't commit to directing your own life, you become a passenger, taken wherever someone else wants you to go. This is why so many people complain today that their life just isn't turning out the way they wanted it to turn out. How can it? They are in the ship of life with no helmsman and no rudder, just drifting with the currents. For life energy to move in a desired direction, commitment is essential.

Commitment is the difference between mediocrity and excellence. Commitment is the most powerful force we have. When we commit to something, we take an active part in ensuring that the outcome of what we committed to is as close to perfect as possible. And that is exactly what everyone wants, everything as close to perfect as possible.

To ensure that it happens for you, make your commitment to your life today. With commitment from you, anything is possible, without it nothing is possible. So, remember commitment is a responsibility from you to yourself. Take that commitment and make your life all that you want it to be.

SOURCE:

Article Source: articopia.com

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of besuccessfulnews.com, a site that provides information and articles on how to succeed in your own home or small business.

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Author: Alan Lim

As cliché goes, there is no such thing as free these days. If this cliché is applicable, you might probably wonder whether free online dating sites are still worth joining. Note though that the Internet has changed the concept of "free" in the most interesting of ways.


There are a few obvious drawbacks with free online dating sites. First, you have to deal with sites which are poor quality and do not work as efficiently. You face the risk of wasting your time signing up then logging on without getting anything satisfactory in the end. If you make the wrong choice, you may only be bombarded with adverts, pop-ups and offerings which you may not be interested in at all.


Another problem about these free sign-up dating net sites is that you may be faced with safety issues here and there. Remember that anyone can join the site, come up with their own identities and meet others. There are no background checks or confirmation methods, nor are there any fees to spend money on. Since sign ups are free, there are good chances that you may meet a person who is not as they claim to be.


If you make the wrong choice, you will most likely invest much time without meeting anyone you would like to meet. Worse, you can end up being scammed or fooled if you do not take extra precaution. However, this does not mean that free online dating sites are totally not worth your time. These risks exist even with paid dating sites and even in chat rooms. Though paid dating sites pose lesser risk, cases of identity fraud and unwanted ad posts are still possible.


If you think about it, the question as to whether free online dating sites are worth it or not is easily answerable by a 'yes.' Consider how you can meet people from all over the world without having to pay a cent. That should be a far better deal than paying fees. Besides, since the service is free, these sites will most likely have a larger pool individuals looking for potential partners. If you sign up with a reliable but free service, there is a good chance that you can find the partner of your dreams.


On second thought, the better question to ask is probably: how much do you think is your time worth? How much time do you think is worth spending in finding your life partner? Do you think you can potentially find a mate who, just like you, does not present commitments and seriousness in finding their lifetime partner?


The bottom line of all these is that, with free online dating sites, you get the exact quality that you pay for. You can use the site freely, but you need to lower down your expectations. Expect to become bombarded with pop-ups and freebies, expect fake identities and sub-standard service. Despite a few drawbacks, free online dating sites are still worth joining. If you make the right choice of a site to join, you still stand the chance of meeting Mr. or Ms. Right through the Internet.

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It is never too late to find Mr. (or Ms.) Right. With online dating, you can increase your chances of finding your one true love. Start now by joining us at FREE Online Dating or Dating Sites now.

Author: Alan Lim

As cliché goes, there is no such thing as free these days. If this cliché is applicable, you might probably wonder whether free online dating sites are still worth joining. Note though that the Internet has changed the concept of "free" in the most interesting of ways.


There are a few obvious drawbacks with free online dating sites. First, you have to deal with sites which are poor quality and do not work as efficiently. You face the risk of wasting your time signing up then logging on without getting anything satisfactory in the end. If you make the wrong choice, you may only be bombarded with adverts, pop-ups and offerings which you may not be interested in at all.


Another problem about these free sign-up dating net sites is that you may be faced with safety issues here and there. Remember that anyone can join the site, come up with their own identities and meet others. There are no background checks or confirmation methods, nor are there any fees to spend money on. Since sign ups are free, there are good chances that you may meet a person who is not as they claim to be.


If you make the wrong choice, you will most likely invest much time without meeting anyone you would like to meet. Worse, you can end up being scammed or fooled if you do not take extra precaution. However, this does not mean that free online dating sites are totally not worth your time. These risks exist even with paid dating sites and even in chat rooms. Though paid dating sites pose lesser risk, cases of identity fraud and unwanted ad posts are still possible.


If you think about it, the question as to whether free online dating sites are worth it or not is easily answerable by a 'yes.' Consider how you can meet people from all over the world without having to pay a cent. That should be a far better deal than paying fees. Besides, since the service is free, these sites will most likely have a larger pool individuals looking for potential partners. If you sign up with a reliable but free service, there is a good chance that you can find the partner of your dreams.


On second thought, the better question to ask is probably: how much do you think is your time worth? How much time do you think is worth spending in finding your life partner? Do you think you can potentially find a mate who, just like you, does not present commitments and seriousness in finding their lifetime partner?


The bottom line of all these is that, with free online dating sites, you get the exact quality that you pay for. You can use the site freely, but you need to lower down your expectations. Expect to become bombarded with pop-ups and freebies, expect fake identities and sub-standard service. Despite a few drawbacks, free online dating sites are still worth joining. If you make the right choice of a site to join, you still stand the chance of meeting Mr. or Ms. Right through the Internet.

Article Source: www.articlesbase.com

About the Author:
It is never too late to find Mr. (or Ms.) Right. With online dating, you can increase your chances of finding your one true love. Start now by joining us at FREE Online Dating or Dating Sites now.

Author: Alan Lim

New to the world of online dating? Finding your way around a dating web site is actually easy! Read more and find out.

The dating web site market is a growing industry that offers singles opportunity to find their mates online. It is a way of meeting people that are also interested in ending their unmarried life. But, it is not easy to be successful in the growing world of dating web sites. You might have heard of some people who haven't been successful in finding a mate over the internet, or maybe you are even one of them who have tried to but with no success. Here are tips on how to attract more people to respond to you.

First, you need a good dating web site. Search over the World Wide Web, and look for those who had been around the longest. They are usually the ones who have the most members. Then, make an interesting profile that describes who you are. But, do not reveal everything about you. Do not state lengthy descriptions, and specify what you are looking for. Next, pose for a picture that gives you a statement of your personality. For instance, if you are an outdoor person, take a picture of you and your hobby. Show your half body and full body pictures. Let's face it; people tend to be superficial at times.

After settling your account and profile, it is time for you to make contact with other members online. Do not be scared to initiate a conversation with someone you like. If you are the shy type, you can start with one contact at a time. It is advisable; however, if you send messages to several people whom, you think, is a match. Try giving an appealing heading, and spice it up with questions regarding their profiles. It gives them the idea that you really are interested. But, be wary of being too personal. It is unattractive for most people to go too fast. It is always advisable to keep a reasonable distance and take it one step at a time until both of you are ready to kick it up a notch.

After a few conversations on the dating web site, both of you may already be ready to start communicating through the phone. It always helps to be extra careful. It also helps to be honest as this can be the only way to tell if you have a future together. Furthermore, it is advisable not to be anxious in planning your date. You might find yourself overly preparing it. Remember, first dates are first dates; they are still full of uncertainties. It is better if you have it somewhere public where you two can be safe and still enjoy. It is also helpful if you tell some of your friends that you are going on a first date with a person you met through the dating web site. It can both be for your safety, and gives you opportunity to leave if the date doesn't go well.

Meeting people through a dating web site can be tricky. It entails time and patience for you to succeed in looking for love through sites like these. But, it can be easier over time and with experience. Needless to say, you still need to exercise extra caution to make sure you're protected.

So, the next time you choose and sign up for a dating web site, try to keep these guidelines in mind. Who knows, the next one you meet might just be "the one".

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Are you ready to savor an entirely new world of dating? Try Internet dating now. Check out Dating Web Site or get more Dating Web Site information now.

Author: Alan Lim

New to the world of online dating? Finding your way around a dating web site is actually easy! Read more and find out.

The dating web site market is a growing industry that offers singles opportunity to find their mates online. It is a way of meeting people that are also interested in ending their unmarried life. But, it is not easy to be successful in the growing world of dating web sites. You might have heard of some people who haven't been successful in finding a mate over the internet, or maybe you are even one of them who have tried to but with no success. Here are tips on how to attract more people to respond to you.

First, you need a good dating web site. Search over the World Wide Web, and look for those who had been around the longest. They are usually the ones who have the most members. Then, make an interesting profile that describes who you are. But, do not reveal everything about you. Do not state lengthy descriptions, and specify what you are looking for. Next, pose for a picture that gives you a statement of your personality. For instance, if you are an outdoor person, take a picture of you and your hobby. Show your half body and full body pictures. Let's face it; people tend to be superficial at times.

After settling your account and profile, it is time for you to make contact with other members online. Do not be scared to initiate a conversation with someone you like. If you are the shy type, you can start with one contact at a time. It is advisable; however, if you send messages to several people whom, you think, is a match. Try giving an appealing heading, and spice it up with questions regarding their profiles. It gives them the idea that you really are interested. But, be wary of being too personal. It is unattractive for most people to go too fast. It is always advisable to keep a reasonable distance and take it one step at a time until both of you are ready to kick it up a notch.

After a few conversations on the dating web site, both of you may already be ready to start communicating through the phone. It always helps to be extra careful. It also helps to be honest as this can be the only way to tell if you have a future together. Furthermore, it is advisable not to be anxious in planning your date. You might find yourself overly preparing it. Remember, first dates are first dates; they are still full of uncertainties. It is better if you have it somewhere public where you two can be safe and still enjoy. It is also helpful if you tell some of your friends that you are going on a first date with a person you met through the dating web site. It can both be for your safety, and gives you opportunity to leave if the date doesn't go well.

Meeting people through a dating web site can be tricky. It entails time and patience for you to succeed in looking for love through sites like these. But, it can be easier over time and with experience. Needless to say, you still need to exercise extra caution to make sure you're protected.

So, the next time you choose and sign up for a dating web site, try to keep these guidelines in mind. Who knows, the next one you meet might just be "the one".

Article Source: www.articlesbase.com

About the Author:
Are you ready to savor an entirely new world of dating? Try Internet dating now. Check out Dating Web Site or get more Dating Web Site information now.

Nothing can enhance your love life better than a little romance. Enhancing your love life is something that every long term relationship eventually requires. Sooner or later your love life will be affected by the regular stresses of everyday life and many other factors that may make your love life seem lacking. Often we hear that our partners are too tired to make love or perhaps there is a problem in the relationship that make love making just a bit more difficult than it used to be. So many aspects of our daily lives are affected and reflected in our personal relationships. This is when learning how to enhance your love life becomes very important.

For starters it helps for you to be able to incorporate playfulness in the bedroom. Being playful in the bedroom is a key factor to you having fun during lovemaking. It also helps you to get closer to your mate.

Learning how to become more spontaneous when it comes to love making can also help you to improve your love life. The reason for this is because it lets your mate know that you still find them sexy and attractive, which is the key to a great love life.

You can add romance feeding one another, having a romantic moonlight picnic and much more. Here are some more romantic tips for adding some romance to your love life:
• Lighting some candles may sound like a cliché, but it still works. It sets the right mood lighting
• Placing some flower petals around the room will add romance and a lovely aroma to enhance the sexual experience.
• Taking a nice bath together is always a romantic favorite
• Taking the time for foreplay is very important to romance
• A little bit of making out is always romantic and can help you remember how wonderful it was to experience the first kiss
• Spending some time cuddling and talking beforehand can be very romantic to the love making process. It is very erotic

There are many things that you can do to make your love life better. Romance is the best way to break into your mate's heart and lower their inhibitions. If you have ever heard of the phrase "you can catch more flies with honey", you will definitely understand why romance is so important to your love life. A little romance goes a long way in the bedroom.

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By Abbas Abedi---To enhance your love life even more visit my blog Erotic Hypnosis

Nothing can enhance your love life better than a little romance. Enhancing your love life is something that every long term relationship eventually requires. Sooner or later your love life will be affected by the regular stresses of everyday life and many other factors that may make your love life seem lacking. Often we hear that our partners are too tired to make love or perhaps there is a problem in the relationship that make love making just a bit more difficult than it used to be. So many aspects of our daily lives are affected and reflected in our personal relationships. This is when learning how to enhance your love life becomes very important.

For starters it helps for you to be able to incorporate playfulness in the bedroom. Being playful in the bedroom is a key factor to you having fun during lovemaking. It also helps you to get closer to your mate.

Learning how to become more spontaneous when it comes to love making can also help you to improve your love life. The reason for this is because it lets your mate know that you still find them sexy and attractive, which is the key to a great love life.

You can add romance feeding one another, having a romantic moonlight picnic and much more. Here are some more romantic tips for adding some romance to your love life:
• Lighting some candles may sound like a cliché, but it still works. It sets the right mood lighting
• Placing some flower petals around the room will add romance and a lovely aroma to enhance the sexual experience.
• Taking a nice bath together is always a romantic favorite
• Taking the time for foreplay is very important to romance
• A little bit of making out is always romantic and can help you remember how wonderful it was to experience the first kiss
• Spending some time cuddling and talking beforehand can be very romantic to the love making process. It is very erotic

There are many things that you can do to make your love life better. Romance is the best way to break into your mate's heart and lower their inhibitions. If you have ever heard of the phrase "you can catch more flies with honey", you will definitely understand why romance is so important to your love life. A little romance goes a long way in the bedroom.

Article Source: www.articopia.com

By Abbas Abedi---To enhance your love life even more visit my blog Erotic Hypnosis

by David Maillie

We hear about it and see it on TV talk shows like Oprah, Dr. Phil and Ellen. We just hope it never happens to us. Cheating in a relationship is devastating and usually leaves permanent emotional scars if it doesn't end the relationship. Unfortunately most don't know about the cheating until they are told about it by a friend or relative. Here are some definite signs that by themselves may not be indicative of cheating, but together should send off warning signals that something is amiss. Recognizing cheating early on can save oneself from much heartache and trouble.

A sudden increase in late night work and travel could indicate cheating. It may just be innocent and maybe they have a new boss, demanding new clients, or a new demanding project. Communication is key here, if you have any doubts call them. If you can't reach them, they make lots of excuses or they won't take your calls then a flag should go up. Midnight or midday rendezvous are not inductive to a good relationship and they cannot hide it forever. Check their clothes and travel items. Is there an unfamiliar perfume? Receipts for possibly romantic dinners, hotels, gifts, etc... (gifts are a big indicator of cheating).

A sudden decrease in sex drive could mean they are having it with someone else. A temporary reduction in sex drive could just be related to increased stress or job duties. It could also indicate medical problems that should be referred to a doctor. But, a sudden decrease in sex drive equipped with sudden late night work at the office and unexplained receipts for romantic dinners definitely means something is going on.

A marked defensiveness and new irritability expressed towards you. This could be your lover trying to hide their cheating by them throwing it back at you. "Why would you even ask or think that? You should trust me like I do you. Maybe you are the one having an affair. Where were you last night?" A new unforeseen defensiveness in itself is a strong indicator of cheating. What do they have to be so defensive about?

Also the opposite of this defensiveness could indicate cheating. Is your partner all of a sudden being extremely nice. Are they buying you romantic gifts, cards, etc... for no apparent reason. Is this way out of the norm for them? They may be going through guilt. They may feel guilty for what they have done and are trying to console their feelings in this way. As seen on the Dr. Phil show, this is a high indicator that cheating has occurred. 95% of partners that have cheated experience feelings of guilt and will be extra nice to their spouse after the cheating has occurred.

There are other indicators like phone calls with no message and hang-ups, password protected emails and computers that weren't protected before, etc... These are all indicative of a potential cheater. Any one item could be circumstance, but the more indicators that occur, the more likely some cheating is going on.

Article Source: www.articopia.com

About the Author

David Maillie is Cornell Alumni and award winning writer and researcher. For more great free info, tips and ideas please visit the award winning and nationally top rated blog: Bestbraindrain.com

by David Maillie

We hear about it and see it on TV talk shows like Oprah, Dr. Phil and Ellen. We just hope it never happens to us. Cheating in a relationship is devastating and usually leaves permanent emotional scars if it doesn't end the relationship. Unfortunately most don't know about the cheating until they are told about it by a friend or relative. Here are some definite signs that by themselves may not be indicative of cheating, but together should send off warning signals that something is amiss. Recognizing cheating early on can save oneself from much heartache and trouble.

A sudden increase in late night work and travel could indicate cheating. It may just be innocent and maybe they have a new boss, demanding new clients, or a new demanding project. Communication is key here, if you have any doubts call them. If you can't reach them, they make lots of excuses or they won't take your calls then a flag should go up. Midnight or midday rendezvous are not inductive to a good relationship and they cannot hide it forever. Check their clothes and travel items. Is there an unfamiliar perfume? Receipts for possibly romantic dinners, hotels, gifts, etc... (gifts are a big indicator of cheating).

A sudden decrease in sex drive could mean they are having it with someone else. A temporary reduction in sex drive could just be related to increased stress or job duties. It could also indicate medical problems that should be referred to a doctor. But, a sudden decrease in sex drive equipped with sudden late night work at the office and unexplained receipts for romantic dinners definitely means something is going on.

A marked defensiveness and new irritability expressed towards you. This could be your lover trying to hide their cheating by them throwing it back at you. "Why would you even ask or think that? You should trust me like I do you. Maybe you are the one having an affair. Where were you last night?" A new unforeseen defensiveness in itself is a strong indicator of cheating. What do they have to be so defensive about?

Also the opposite of this defensiveness could indicate cheating. Is your partner all of a sudden being extremely nice. Are they buying you romantic gifts, cards, etc... for no apparent reason. Is this way out of the norm for them? They may be going through guilt. They may feel guilty for what they have done and are trying to console their feelings in this way. As seen on the Dr. Phil show, this is a high indicator that cheating has occurred. 95% of partners that have cheated experience feelings of guilt and will be extra nice to their spouse after the cheating has occurred.

There are other indicators like phone calls with no message and hang-ups, password protected emails and computers that weren't protected before, etc... These are all indicative of a potential cheater. Any one item could be circumstance, but the more indicators that occur, the more likely some cheating is going on.

Article Source: www.articopia.com

About the Author

David Maillie is Cornell Alumni and award winning writer and researcher. For more great free info, tips and ideas please visit the award winning and nationally top rated blog: Bestbraindrain.com

"Are You Open To Love?" I ask. You say "Of course! What kind of question is that?, who isn't?". Isn't it amazing that we think that and yet, there are millions of people who say they want love yet when it comes to the crunch they are not really open to it?

We could each have amazing qualities inside us. We all have beautiful qualities this world needs. It might be our ability to sincerely show our compassion. It might be our ability to make another person feel like a million bucks, or our ability to cook like the world's best chef, or our ability to just hold another human being in such a way that they feel wanted, or our ability to light up the other person's heart with our smile. It varies and the list is endless. How can another human being see our inner qualities and get to enjoy our abilities if we are closed for love?

What do I mean by that? Well, everyone needs love. We all feel lonely now and then. So we think we need love and go around our daily chores thinking we will bump into the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Occasionally we meet people we think we like and get along. We think, "wow! He or she seems to be exactly the one I am looking for" etc.

Time goes by and we get to know that person who seem to fit our bill of qualities we want in a lover / mate. We get to a point where we need to make conclusive decisions regarding the relationship. We need to decide whether to get more closer to this person and get him or her committed to you either as an exclusive boyfriend or girlfriend or move in or get engaged etc.

The moment arrives when you are put on the spot to make a decision to get committed to the decision to move forward to the next step. You panic. You come up with all kinds of excuses not go to the next step. You wonder why you can't seem to make the decision to go forward. You can't seem to put the finger on why this is the case. On a deeper level, we are sometimes confused about love. This can be due to several reasons. Some are as follows;

Here are some of the reasons because of which we may not be open to love;

1) Painful Past Experiences - We want love but we don't want to be too close to someone because of our past painful experiences associated with having a loving relationship. We associate love with painful experience because that's what happened in the past. We think that what happened in the past is going to happen in the future. We think that past equals the future.

2) Lose of Independence
On some level we believe that opening the door for love means loss of our own independence. We think that by letting the other person into our lives we might lose our own way of life. We might be forced to do certain things or our way of life may have to be changed etc

3) Lack Of Time - We believe that our times through the day have to be shared with the other person, we might be required to communicate with the other person on a regular basis even if we don't feel like it. We think that they might take up our daily time especially if we are already at a crunch for time to do what we need to do in our existing life.

4) Fear Of Commitment
We think that by committing to the love from this one person we might be committed to that person for life and it might appear final for our decision on our lover for life. Although the "Fear Of Commitment" is can be due to several factors, simply put this may also influence whether we are open to love coming into our life as well.

5) Busy Lifestyle
Our lifestyle whether it is existing work related, habit related or our friendship network related may not lend itself to a new person coming into our life. We think that by letting love into our life we have to change our lifestyle dramatically which we might regret later on, so we decide not to be open to love

6) Financial Reasons
We somehow believe that having new love into our life, we might be required to spend more money on ourselves whether to make us look good by dressing better or spend more money on the other person in terms of gifts, dinner or other activities which may cost money. We think the new love may interfere with our work and time, which we think can be spent on making our finances better

7) Our Need To Remain Who We Are
Most of us have moments when we shy from change. We all want to remain true to who we are. We don't want to change our habits for anyone, especially if our habits and values are making us happy as a person. We think that letting love into our life, the other person may make us change who we are. So we remain closed to new love or not letting our existing love come closer to us. We think that for the moment we feel better because nothing will change the status quo of who we are if we do not let love into our life.

8) Fear Of Intimacy
We all have our inherent fear for certain things in our life. This may vary from fear of dark places, fear of flying to fear of getting closer to someone emotionally or even physically at intimate moments. When we are afraid of being intimate with another person in a romantic way, the fear itself prevents us from being open to love

9) Lack of Self Esteem
Our sense of personal worth or self-esteem will have a dramatic impact on how sociable we are. How we behave in social situations with other people whether it is with the member of the same sex or the opposite sex. You will find that lower the self-esteem, lower the chances of us being "open to love". On some level our self worth and our perception of what / whom we deserve prevents us from being open to new and exciting love coming into our life

10) Perfectionist Mentality
How many of us wait for the perfect moment to do certain things? We think that if we do it in a hurry we might mess it up and AVOID doing those things?

Solution? We need to explore each of the above factors and think through why we are not open to. The above reasons list can differ from one person to another as each one of us are from varying cultural, family, belief systems, value systems and other social conditioning. So the above can vary from one factor being applicable to you to more than one or even all of them being applicable to you. Only you can self explore which ones ring a bell when you look deeper inside yourself to find ways to overcome the above issues and be open to love.

Copyright 2006 Joshua Danicio

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Joshua Danicio is a contributing writer and part of the Editorial Team at CupidClinic.com "Where Cupid Comes To Learn About Love". We feature free dating & relationship advice from talented writers to help you find and keep your love. We welcome other talented writers to submit their work at our site to promote their skills and business

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"Are You Open To Love?" I ask. You say "Of course! What kind of question is that?, who isn't?". Isn't it amazing that we think that and yet, there are millions of people who say they want love yet when it comes to the crunch they are not really open to it?

We could each have amazing qualities inside us. We all have beautiful qualities this world needs. It might be our ability to sincerely show our compassion. It might be our ability to make another person feel like a million bucks, or our ability to cook like the world's best chef, or our ability to just hold another human being in such a way that they feel wanted, or our ability to light up the other person's heart with our smile. It varies and the list is endless. How can another human being see our inner qualities and get to enjoy our abilities if we are closed for love?

What do I mean by that? Well, everyone needs love. We all feel lonely now and then. So we think we need love and go around our daily chores thinking we will bump into the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Occasionally we meet people we think we like and get along. We think, "wow! He or she seems to be exactly the one I am looking for" etc.

Time goes by and we get to know that person who seem to fit our bill of qualities we want in a lover / mate. We get to a point where we need to make conclusive decisions regarding the relationship. We need to decide whether to get more closer to this person and get him or her committed to you either as an exclusive boyfriend or girlfriend or move in or get engaged etc.

The moment arrives when you are put on the spot to make a decision to get committed to the decision to move forward to the next step. You panic. You come up with all kinds of excuses not go to the next step. You wonder why you can't seem to make the decision to go forward. You can't seem to put the finger on why this is the case. On a deeper level, we are sometimes confused about love. This can be due to several reasons. Some are as follows;

Here are some of the reasons because of which we may not be open to love;

1) Painful Past Experiences - We want love but we don't want to be too close to someone because of our past painful experiences associated with having a loving relationship. We associate love with painful experience because that's what happened in the past. We think that what happened in the past is going to happen in the future. We think that past equals the future.

2) Lose of Independence
On some level we believe that opening the door for love means loss of our own independence. We think that by letting the other person into our lives we might lose our own way of life. We might be forced to do certain things or our way of life may have to be changed etc

3) Lack Of Time - We believe that our times through the day have to be shared with the other person, we might be required to communicate with the other person on a regular basis even if we don't feel like it. We think that they might take up our daily time especially if we are already at a crunch for time to do what we need to do in our existing life.

4) Fear Of Commitment
We think that by committing to the love from this one person we might be committed to that person for life and it might appear final for our decision on our lover for life. Although the "Fear Of Commitment" is can be due to several factors, simply put this may also influence whether we are open to love coming into our life as well.

5) Busy Lifestyle
Our lifestyle whether it is existing work related, habit related or our friendship network related may not lend itself to a new person coming into our life. We think that by letting love into our life we have to change our lifestyle dramatically which we might regret later on, so we decide not to be open to love

6) Financial Reasons
We somehow believe that having new love into our life, we might be required to spend more money on ourselves whether to make us look good by dressing better or spend more money on the other person in terms of gifts, dinner or other activities which may cost money. We think the new love may interfere with our work and time, which we think can be spent on making our finances better

7) Our Need To Remain Who We Are
Most of us have moments when we shy from change. We all want to remain true to who we are. We don't want to change our habits for anyone, especially if our habits and values are making us happy as a person. We think that letting love into our life, the other person may make us change who we are. So we remain closed to new love or not letting our existing love come closer to us. We think that for the moment we feel better because nothing will change the status quo of who we are if we do not let love into our life.

8) Fear Of Intimacy
We all have our inherent fear for certain things in our life. This may vary from fear of dark places, fear of flying to fear of getting closer to someone emotionally or even physically at intimate moments. When we are afraid of being intimate with another person in a romantic way, the fear itself prevents us from being open to love

9) Lack of Self Esteem
Our sense of personal worth or self-esteem will have a dramatic impact on how sociable we are. How we behave in social situations with other people whether it is with the member of the same sex or the opposite sex. You will find that lower the self-esteem, lower the chances of us being "open to love". On some level our self worth and our perception of what / whom we deserve prevents us from being open to new and exciting love coming into our life

10) Perfectionist Mentality
How many of us wait for the perfect moment to do certain things? We think that if we do it in a hurry we might mess it up and AVOID doing those things?

Solution? We need to explore each of the above factors and think through why we are not open to. The above reasons list can differ from one person to another as each one of us are from varying cultural, family, belief systems, value systems and other social conditioning. So the above can vary from one factor being applicable to you to more than one or even all of them being applicable to you. Only you can self explore which ones ring a bell when you look deeper inside yourself to find ways to overcome the above issues and be open to love.

Copyright 2006 Joshua Danicio

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About the Author

Joshua Danicio is a contributing writer and part of the Editorial Team at CupidClinic.com "Where Cupid Comes To Learn About Love". We feature free dating & relationship advice from talented writers to help you find and keep your love. We welcome other talented writers to submit their work at our site to promote their skills and business

Author Profile: Jolissa